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DDS seeks to remove mother as co-guardian of her son after she saves his life

Cindy Alemesis’ son, Nicholas, nearly died in December 2018 after staff in his group home in Dracut failed to take him for a scheduled morning ultrasound appointment, which would have shown that his brain shunt was leaking spinal fluid.

Just hours after the scheduled time for the appointment, Cindy first noticed how ill Nick appeared.

Cindy was with Nick following an evening church service, and made sure he was taken to a hospital. There, doctors found that the shunt was leaking spinal fluid into his body, and that the fluid had begun to build up in his stomach. Cindy didn’t know at the time that the ultrasound appointment had been missed.

Nick got sepsis from the leaked fluid, and was in Mass. General Hospital for eight months, during which he underwent multiple brain operations and other procedures. Cindy was at his bedside for much of that time.

Nick, who is 28, has a mild intellectual disability, and was born with hydrocephalus, a condition in which there is excess spinal fluid in his brain. He has a shunt in his brain that drains the fluid.

Nick Alemesis and his mother, Cindy

Since Nick’s recovery and release from the hospital in July 2019, Cindy has regularly complained that staff in the group home, run by LifeLinks, a provider to the Department of Developmental Services (DDS), have continued to miss medical and dental appointments for him.

But rather than addressing those concerns, DDS is now moving to remove Cindy as her son’s co-guardian, stating only in a court document filed last month that she has made decisions that were not in Nick’s best interest. The DDS filing in Middlesex Probate Court does not provide any specifics as to what decisions those might have been.

Cindy said DDS has done little or nothing to address the concerns she has raised about Nick’s care in the group home.  She said problems, in addition to the missed appointments, include sharp restrictions placed on her contact with Nick for reasons that have not been explained to her.

Cindy said the other co-guardian for Nick, who is apparently paid by DDS, appears to live in Florida, and has been uninvolved in Nick’s care. Cindy sought unsuccessfully to remove that co-guardian last year in probate court.

It isn’t clear whether the current move by DDS to remove Cindy as co-guardian is in retaliation for her attempt to remove the other co-guardian. It is also unclear whether DDS wants to make that individual Nick’s sole guardian.

I emailed a request for comment on this matter on Tuesday (November 10) to DDS Commissioner Jane Ryder, and to Barbara Green Whitbeck, DDS assistant general counsel. Whitbeck signed the Department’s petition to the probate court to remove Cindy as co-guardian. Neither Ryder nor Whitbeck has yet responded to my request for comment.

Support from church pastor 

Keith Phemister is pastor of the Lighthouse Baptist Church in Hudson, NH, which Cindy, her husband, and Nick have attended for the past 20 years.

Phemister strongly supports Cindy’s remaining as Nick’s co-guardian, and said he is baffled by DDS’s claim that she hasn’t made decisions in his best interest.

Phemister said Cindy can be abrasive at times, and that he has spoken to her about it. But he maintains her abrasiveness is because she feels that her son is being mistreated, and that she sometimes will speak her mind without thinking about how others might react.

“I know she (Cindy) is fighting for her son,” Phemister said. “It’s possible they (DDS) see that as a negative, but she loves her son and is fighting for him, and they’re holding that against her.”

Phemister said that on the evening Nick got ill in December 2018, Nick had attended Wednesday church services with Cindy. The church has a van that picked Cindy up from her home in Lowell, and picked up Nick from his group home in Dracut, and took them to the church in Hudson, NH. After the service, Nick started feeling ill, and was sweating and vomiting on the van ride back to Dracut.

Phemister said Cindy was so concerned, she had them detour and take Nick to Lowell General Hospital. Nick was later transferred to Mass. General. Phemister said the medical staff apparently told Cindy that Nick would have died had he not been brought to the hospital that day.

Cindy at Nick’s bedside in the hospital

Doctor stipulates to missed ultrasound appointment

In a written statement, Zaheer Ahmed, a doctor of internal medicine based in Lowell, said he examined Nick on December 17, 2018, two days before Nick fell ill and was taken to Lowell General.

During the December 17 visit, Ahmed scheduled an ultrasound of Nick’s abdomen for two days later — December 19 at 10 a.m.

Ahmed’s statement added that “the patient and care worker were both informed of (the) appointment before leaving the office on that date.”  However, the doctor’s statement says Nick didn’t show up for the December 19 appointment, and the ultrasound had to be rescheduled for December 21.

However, by then it was too late. Nick fell ill during the church service in the evening of December 19. During the ride back in the van, Nick was first taken on Cindy’s insistence to Lowell General Hospital. He was transferred a few hours later to Mass. General.

A document from Mass. General shows Nick was admitted on December 20 with fever, nausea, vomiting, lethargy, and abdominal pain. That was the start of an eight-month stay in the hospital.

At Mass. General, Nick had 13 operations to remove and replace the shunt in his brain, and seven procedures on his throat due to an infection caused by his trach tube, Cindy said.

According to the Mass. General document, Nick also underwent a subsequent operation for a perforated bowel caused by a piece of the infected shunt.

DDS and provider apparently failed to report hospitalization

Given Dr. Ahmed’s written statement regarding the missed ultrasound appointment, the LifeLinks staff were knowledgeable and responsible for bringing Nick to the appointment, and failed to do so – a potentially negligent act that could well have cost him his life.

Cindy said she immediately reported those circumstances to officials at DDS. It appears, however, that neither the provider nor DDS reported the matter to the Disabled Persons Protection Commission (DPPC), as required by the DPPC’s enabling statute and regulations. As a result, DPPC never investigated the matter or authorized DDS to investigate it.

In response to a query from Cindy earlier this month, DPPC responded that it had received no complaint report involving Nick’s hospitalization until Cindy herself filed a complaint about it last month.

The DPPC’s statute and regulations state that “mandated reporters” must report any situation resulting in a serious physical injury if there is reasonable cause to believe it was due to abuse or neglect.

Missed appointments continue

Cindy said she has been frustrated that the group home staff continued to miss appointments for Nick, even after his release from the hospital in July 2019.

A written statement from Jonathan Moray, a doctor with New England Neurological Associates of Lawrence, stated, for instance, that Nick missed an appointment on November 27, 2019, just a few months after he got out of the hospital.

A written statement last year from Tufts Dental School states that they could not schedule any further dental appointments for Nick “due to lack of updated medical paperwork.” That paperwork is required to be updated yearly, and nothing was on file since 2017, the Tufts letter stated.

Cindy said Nick’s teeth are still damaged from a trach tube that was inserted during his hospitalization.

DPPC screens out recent complaint

Unable to get an adequate resolution to her concerns about the missed appointments, Cindy filed the complaint last month with DPPC. But the agency screened out that complaint as ineligible for an abuse investigation, and instead referred it to DDS for an “administrative review.”

The DPPC intake form states that Cindy’s complaint was screened out because Nick had not suffered a serious physical or emotional injury. However, that same DPPC intake report acknowledged that one of the alleged missed appointments had led to Nick’s hospitalization for eight months.

DDS attorney threatened to take away co-guardianship in 2019

Cindy said Barbara Green Whitbeck, the DDS assistant general counsel, first threatened to take away her co-guardianship of Nick last year, and accused Cindy at the time of trying to improperly feed Nick while he was hospitalized. Cindy denied that she ever fed Nick improperly.

Whitbeck has represented DDS in the ongoing probate court fight in which Cindy had sought to remove the DDS co-guardian. Cindy said that when she informed Whitbeck during a private meeting of her concerns about the other co-guardian and the alleged negligence of the provider, Whitbeck dismissed those concerns.

“She (Whitbeck) said the (LifeLinks) staff did nothing wrong,” Cindy said. “Then she accused me of feeding my son and keeping him sick in (Mass. General).” Cindy said she got up at that point to leave the meeting, and Whitbeck threatened her, saying if she left, she would lose her co-guardianship.

Cindy said the charge of improperly feeding Nick was untrue and “came out of left field.”

Cindy said that while she was at Nick’s bedside in the hospital, the nurses trained her in how to suction his trach tube and how to put his medication, which was crushed up in a type of pudding, into his G-tube. His trach had to be sanctioned every 20 minutes or so, she said.

Cindy feels Nick is continuing to be isolated in his group home

Cindy said Nick’s phone was recently taken away from him, and that he has had few social interactions since March. Before that, his church was his main source of social interaction.

Currently, Cindy’s contact with her son is restricted by the group home to once a week. Her phone contact with him is also apparently highly restricted. She was told in March that no in-house visits were permitted because of the COVID crisis, but said no one informed her that in-house visits were restored as of early October under revised DDS guidelines.

In an email on Oct. 8, Cindy complained to Nick’s service coordinator that the group home staff told her not to call Nick, and didn’t give her a reason for that. She said she sometimes goes for three to five days without hearing from him.

Cindy said those restrictions on contact have made it harder for her to keep track of the care Nick is receiving, and to monitor his medical needs. She said that when she called the house earlier this week to ask permission to visit her son, a staff member hung up on her.

Case fits a pattern

Unfortunately, this case fits a pattern we have seen in which DDS and sometimes providers themselves have taken a variety of punitive and retaliatory actions against family members and guardians when they are seen as troublesome or meddlesome in advocating for adequate care for their loved ones in the system.

Guardians, parents, and other family members can suddenly find their contact with their loved ones restricted or banned entirely, and their guardianship placed in jeopardy. They are frequently either ignored or threatened with punitive actions if they don’t agree to accept the providers’ decisions on care and services without complaint. (Examples of this are here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, here, and here.)

Without an attorney, family members and guardians can find themselves badly outmatched and outgunned by DDS’s extensive legal resources, particularly in probate court. The system is entirely unfair and designed to bully families into submission.

It shouldn’t have to be this way. We strongly hope that Cindy prevails in her battle to keep her guardianship, and will do everything we can to help her. But it will likely be an uphill battle.

What you can do

We urge people to call DDS at 617-727-5608 and ask to leave a message with the commissioner in support of Cindy remaining as her son’s co-guardian.

Also, please call your local state legislators (you can find them here), particularly if you live in the Lowell and Dracut areas, and ask them to contact DDS on her behalf. And please share this post on Facebook and other social media.

  1. Maureen Shea
    November 12, 2020 at 11:45 am

    This story brought tears to my eyes. Outrageous neglect and lack care, and not following through with a Doctor’s orders to check on this mans shunt. This young man had 13 surgeries and many throat procedures and was in a hospital 8 months because NO staff followed through ?? This residential home that accepted this man knowing full well that shunts are serious when leaking or blocked, and require monitoring . Worse DDS is paying someone who obviously could care less to look out for this man, he’s out of state. What is wrong with this? How does DDS and DPPC sleep at night !!! They get paid handsomely and they clearly did not protect this man. Where is the Nursing involved with a client so medically involved? These organizations have nursing onboard, but as I was texted by a CEO, “ It would cost too much money to have nurses go to residential homes” . Residential and DDS are well aware of the medical conditions of ALL clients they accept and some even receive more money due to more care, but it does not keep these medically challenged clients safe! So now they are trying to take away the guardians rights because she’s a problem, her problem,? she did not keep quiet. This needs to stop!

    Our Vulnerable need vital advocates as too many times those PAID well FAIL.


  2. November 13, 2020 at 4:21 am

    Guardianship Yet another battle ground with the THEY Yes the military image that we are in a WAR with a THEY who claim to be ALL KNOWING. THEY starts with National Disability Rights Network and works down from there. Then the University Centers and then any other Federally funded folks. The rest do have free speech rights.

    On the guardianship front in the US Court 7 th district Chicago for IL WI IN NO guardian is allowed to bring a Pro Se legal action where they are acting as the person they are guardian for. About 20,000 cognitively disabled individuals NO LONGER has access to the Federal Courts in at least those three States It looks like this ruling will not be appealed which means that we will not be able to sue Disability Rights Wisconsin (DRW) in Federal Court for discriminating against Rosa Spellman as her guardians. We Rosa’s guardians have filed a 30 page complaint with the Board of DRW claiming that they are lying about Rosa (and therefore discriminating against her) and the other 6000 disabled individuals who WORK in Wisconsin’s workshops. Along this journey have observed that LIES are the foundation of all discrimination The essence of Jim Crow the LIE of superiority and inferiority

    Will gladly share the notice with DRW with anyone who is interested Tom Spellman 414 403 1341


  3. Cindy Alemesis
    November 13, 2020 at 5:50 pm

    Thank you ,. Please Pray. I love my son with all my heart , I’ve only ever wanted medical and church , please share send in comments and Pray ! Thank You


  4. Danny Mccarthy
    November 13, 2020 at 6:03 pm

    It’s was not right what’s going on if it wasn’t for a Cindy picking up her son Nick for church that night who knows what would had happened to him in that situation I was actually the one that went in the in that house and seen him at church that night he did not look well and Cindy brought him to the hospital right after church he was vomiting on the bus on the way to the hospital she was holding his head up she contact at Andrew the manager of the house and he told her to bring him straight home they would bring him to the doctors on Friday


  5. Spires Alemesis
    November 13, 2020 at 7:20 pm

    As Nicholas father and Cindy’s husband I can honestly say she saved his life she never left him cindy now is having her own medical difficulties due to all the stress and weight loss. I admire my wife she made medical decisions for our son that was life and death. She nursed him back to health. Nick loves and needs his mom it would be a crime to take him


  6. Anonymous
    November 13, 2020 at 10:17 pm

    DDS is trying to cover stuff up and hide what they are doing from the mom because they have stuff to hide. It’s obviously inappropriate for them to be monitoring themselves at the risk of someone’s life.
    Are these “caretakers” the ones who want to be called “support professionals” and asking for higher pay?


  7. Anonymous
    November 13, 2020 at 10:21 pm

    Every time they cheat us they expose who they are.


  8. November 14, 2020 at 4:44 am

    Good morning to both of you. We in our home pray and hope all will be well. A question is how and when did the co guardian get appointed by the court What process would even find a co guardian and on what justification was the co guardian appointed. Guardians are the voice for those we love who can not speak. Another term that is use is that we are proxy’s and both guardians and proxies are under attack. Peace Tom Spellman


  9. November 14, 2020 at 6:44 am

    Unfortunately Cindy and Nick’s story is not the first time we have heard of DDS attempting to remove a parent or family guardian. it is often the people who are the most outspoken, and who do not just accept the “rules” put in place by a provider. Over the years, I have witnessed several COFAR presidents (all outspoken folks) have to go to court against DDS in order to retain guardianship for their family member. There should be a criteria of neglect or abuse before the drastic step of removing a parent or family member from this vital role in protecting their loved ones is taken. Not everyone can afford an attorney and it should not come to this. DDS is allowing its appointed attorney guardians to make drastic decisions that will have a lifetime effect on the individuals they serve. COFAR stands with Cindy and all of the other family guardians who have found themselves in this situation. DDS should stop this travesty.


  10. Anonymous
    November 14, 2020 at 12:08 pm

    The group home is run by Lifelinks. They had an employee who stole about 300K from disabled clients and got away with it.


    • November 14, 2020 at 7:18 pm

      A class action Lawsuit against the State might be in order. We need a volunteer lawyers group Surely there are families that have lawyers as parents or aunts and uncles or friends who would be willing to form a volunteer Lawyers for the Intellectually Disabled. We could fund raise for the group as well and that would be a shot across the bow so to speak as people would begin to ask why we needed money since many folks think that the State Protection and Advocacy agencies represent our interest including guardianship which they are attacking as well. Any interest? I most unfortunately am not a lawyer but have taken a case of discrimination against Disability Rights Wisconsin and the National Disability Rights Network to the US Seventh Circuit (WI IN IL) only to wind up being told that I as Rosa’s guardian could not represent her. That means that 20 disabled individuals who can not represent themselves intellectually have to no protection of the Federal Court in the Seventh 3 States. Tom Spellman 414 403 1341


  11. Keri Ann McGrade
    November 14, 2020 at 12:32 pm

    This was something that could have been avoided if the people that are paid to protect these children would do in their jobs. Sadly conditions and protocol haven’t changed even after almost losing Nick . We need change and people held accountable so that no other person will suffer the way my nephew did. it is appalling that the one Guardian that was at the hospital the whole time the only Guardian that was ever there and saved him and continues to fight for his rights is losing her rights. It is appalling that this can happen in this day and age. Quite frankly it is scary. Also a down syndrome’s man from that group home last Thursday before last Thursday went missing Dracut police had to bring him home. Thank God he wasn’t killed hit by a car severely hurt or hurt somebody else this is just crazy.


  12. Anonymous
    November 14, 2020 at 2:26 pm

    The lady got only 2 years probation 2018-2019 look in Lowell sun same time Nicholas Alemesis was in hospital life links was going through Court criminal case I think that’s why Nicholas case was overlooked and coming up.


  13. Zachary alemesis
    November 14, 2020 at 4:30 pm

    My mom cindy saved my brother’s life they both fought so hard. It has taken a toll on my family please expose them !!! We need to HEAL !!


  14. Anonymous just no change anything
    November 14, 2020 at 9:49 pm

    Praying for the family Nicholas is very loved by his church family Please Pray


  15. Olivia Brooke
    November 15, 2020 at 8:49 am

    With gods blessings my cousin is still alive! I didn’t even know Nick had another legal Guardian because Every time I visited Nick in the hospital it was always his MOM next to him. If they get custody of Nick and cut his mom out of the picture after SHE has been the ONLY ONE THERE AS A “ Guardian“ LEGAL OR NOT .. how long will Nick have? They didn’t care for him properly with her around imagine if they had FULL CUSTODY and no one watching on NICKS behalf. I love you Nick ! stay strong like you’ve been!


  16. gael79
    November 16, 2020 at 10:52 am

    Lots of us know how real this story is. And inhumane.
    Can we do a class action lawsuit on DDS?


  17. November 16, 2020 at 11:18 am

    OK Either we have 10 to 20 thousand dollars I am NOT A Lawyer. I’m good for a $1,000 paid to a lawyer or we can begin to put together a volunteer Lawyers group who could help in these matters. Also I have suggested that we could establish a “Lawyers for the Intellectually Disabled” or some such which would be like the NAACP Legal Defense which is a Not for Profit and donation to it are tax deductible


    • gael79
      November 16, 2020 at 1:24 pm

      Count me in for $1,000. It is way past time.


  18. Anonymous
    November 17, 2020 at 3:24 pm

    Nick is loved by his whole family and has been riding his church bus for 23 years his heart and soul needs church , we need to protect all disabled people.


  19. Anonymous
    November 17, 2020 at 6:27 pm

    As a mom my heart goes out to Cindy. The thought of my child, while in the care of others, being neglected to the complete detriment of their health to the extent Nick suffered, is horrific. Adding insult to injury by attempting to intimidate Cindy and threaten the guardianship with her son is criminal. Cindy loves her son and desires nothing but the best for him. These people, and this organization need to be made accountable!


  20. Cindy Alemesis
    November 17, 2020 at 8:17 pm

    Thank You All Please Keep Praying 🙏🏻🙏🏻


  21. Amy C
    November 17, 2020 at 10:46 pm

    Nichols nearly died due to negligence of the group home caregivers, this is so sad. His mother was at his side throughout the months of treatment in hospitals and her guardianship should not be taken away. Nicholas has been attending church services regularly for well over ten years and he needs his church family for his spiritual and emotional well-being. The church has safety protocols in place and Nicholas should be allowed to attend services.

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  22. November 18, 2020 at 3:18 am

    Good morning all Is there any paper concerning the State’s attempt to remove guardianship? Or is it a verbal threat? If there is paper please post it. That would be the first step to community help and help in understanding what the next steps might be Peace Tom Spellman

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    • November 18, 2020 at 12:55 pm

      Yes, we have a copy of the DDS Petition for Removal of a Guardian. The document requests removal of Cindy as co-guardian, and says only that “Co-guardian is not making decisions in the best interest of the Respondent (Nick Alemesis).” The petition was signed by DDS Attorney Whitbeck. We also have a copy of the probate court’s Citation Giving Notice of Petition, which is dated October 22, 2020, and a copy of a cover letter from Whitbeck to Cindy, which was enclosed with the Citation, and is dated October 27.


  23. Silent no more
    November 18, 2020 at 12:07 pm

    This lawyer is violating the oath she took to uphold the Constitution. There is dereliction of duty all the way up the line (not the mother). They are trying to undermine this mom’s due process rights.


  24. November 18, 2020 at 5:06 pm

    So this is in a court and there is a hearing date And is there a lawyer to represent them ie where is the local Protection and Advocacy agency If they refused to represent her interest that would add fuel to the fire. There will have to be a guardian ad litem appointed as well

    Again I am not an attorney and so this is from my personal experiences ie when we became guardians and that process To reverse the process would probably be as I described it.

    Peace Tom Spellman


  25. Gail Young
    November 19, 2020 at 1:13 pm

    Shame on them This is her son and no one cares more than his mom


  26. Kimberly Porter
    November 19, 2020 at 7:29 pm

    What a disgrace having to hear & read all of these details. I am a lifelong friend of Cindys and have been praying for Cindy, Nick and their family for the last 2 years. Seeing nothing but love & support for Nick throughout this whole ordeal that almost cost him his life. This family has suffered enough. Because of Nick & Cindys commitment to God and their church family Nick is still here today, and of course because of the care he received from the doctors and health workers that took care of him for his 8 month stay in the hospital. This organization needs to be investigated and held accountable for this, not Cindy. Nick needs his Mom, and she needs him. Cindy, please know you and your family are all in my thoughts and prayers and I hope that the BEST INTEREST for Nick will prevail, and that is including his Mom and her love in his life. God Bless you all!


  27. Anonymous
    November 20, 2020 at 1:13 pm

    How do we know which state representative to call when there is more than one?


  28. Elena Sachs
    November 22, 2020 at 6:13 am

    I am a nurse and a friend of Cindy’s.I also recently retired from DDS.I am TOTALLY horrified about this awful treatment of Cindy and her son.This is a TRAVESTY of justice.Please help this dedicated and religious Mom get her rights restored.This is CRUEL and Unusual punishment.God bless.


  29. Rosalie
    November 22, 2020 at 11:29 pm

    Loving mom that will fight to the end my good friend’s son 💙 that I cherish my we keep fighting to the end💜


  30. Uncle Scott
    November 23, 2020 at 1:43 pm

    Nick has always been taken care of ! By his Mom. It has been a hard journey at times but the Love was always there . The state cannot do this help the family. Pray


  31. Jillian Davis
    November 25, 2020 at 3:56 pm

    I have known this family for a very long time at times Nick could be a handful but his mother always stuck by him when nobody else was there , no parent is perfect but how can you take A special needs child away from their family wont that effective child even more ?


  32. Shawn Velazquez
    November 28, 2020 at 6:02 pm

    I’ve known Spike and Cindy since I was a baby I’ve known Nick !since his birth , he wasn’t easy to raise he ran a lot his mom gave everything up just to be his mom, how dare anybody try to take him from a mother this is 20/20 crazy how can these things even happen that’s what I want to know the state takes him and says oh he’ll get better care and then look what happens the kid almost dies but now what you’re going to take the kid away now who will watch over him this needs to stop! !!! JUSTICE FOR NICHOLAS


    • Anonymous
      November 29, 2020 at 3:54 pm

      Thank you for that. Do you have the name of Cindy’s state representative? I would like to give a call but don’t have their name. Lowell is broken up and there is more than one but I would like to call hers.


      • Cindy Alemesis
        November 30, 2020 at 10:12 am

        State Representative is David Nangle and Stats Senator is Edward J. Kennedy Thank You God Bless


  33. Tina Marie Cobb
    November 29, 2020 at 10:29 pm

    I am a close friend of the Alemesis family from church .I was at the hospital in Boston almost every day and I was at tewksbury hospital almost everyday with Cindy. I have never in my life saw a mother fight harder than Cindy did, she never gave up she lost herself in fighting for her son, I have also been to just about every meeting at DDS they intimidate her there is not one friendly face my friend has been put through horrible conditions I’ve never seen this in my life my husband and I are both army retired I traveled the world in the army and I still haven’t seen anything like this, I will stand beside her throughout this fight. Nick doesn’t even know what’s going on he needs his mom he needs his church he’s needs his family we have to help them, Justice For Nicholas


  34. La Shanta Clark
    December 1, 2020 at 2:47 pm

    Sending many Prayers , I wish I could do more this is a crime JUSTICE FOR NICHOLAS


  35. Madison Alemesis
    December 1, 2020 at 2:53 pm

    My mom takes very good care of all of us especially Nick he’s always been her baby she’s always done everything for him, we love him very much our family has been torn apart I hear my mom crying I miss my brother I wish this never happened now I might never see my brother again he’ll never be able to go to church I don’t understand how this could happen. Where is the Justice in this world. Please help my family please don’t take my brother 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻


  36. Katie Bailey
    December 1, 2020 at 3:00 pm

    I have known Cindy for 40 years she is my lifelong friend everything Cindy does is in the best interest of her children. The situation with her son Nicholas is an outrage the group home he is staying in failed to take him to the doctors in a timely manner and he almost died he was in the hospital for months and Cindy did not leave his side. Instead of the group home admitting their neglect they are placing the blame on Cindy and trying to take custody that is so she will not have a voice in protecting her son any longer. I do not understand this she’s the most loving caring mother that I know and she would do anything to protect Nicholas. I do not understand why the system is trying to punish a mother who is only fighting to protect her son I have been with Cindy when she is tried to call the group home to speak to her son they will not let her they give her the run-around they treat her like she is nothing and they do not want to admit that they made a mistake they are just trying to keep a mother and son apart and I do not understand this I am outraged


  37. Concerned Citizen
    December 1, 2020 at 5:22 pm

    I called the office of Representative David Nangle and left a message that in the care of DDS, Mrs. Alemesis’s son was neglected and needed to be hospitalized for months. I asked him to intervene since after she spoke up and asserted her rights, now they are trying to kidnap him.

    If everyone reading this blog would give a call it should help.

    The phone number for Rep. David Nangle is


    • Anonymous
      December 1, 2020 at 5:57 pm

      Thank You Very Much ! God Bless


  38. Anonymous
    December 1, 2020 at 6:26 pm

    Thank You Very Much ! God Bless


  39. Katie Bailey
    December 8, 2020 at 9:04 pm

    I have known Cindy since we wore 10 years old, we raised our children together we always watched out for nicholas he was always loved very much. Cindy has always been a caring loving mom especially for Nicholas she has always kept up on his medical needs, she only left the hospital a few times in 8 months other state co Guardian never showed up once except towards the end for a meeting, Nick would deteriorate without his mom and family, please JUSTICE FOR NICHOLAS


  40. Anonymous
    December 9, 2020 at 9:18 pm

    Prayers For Nick’s Family


  41. Lisa Pelchat
    December 18, 2020 at 10:02 am

    I would like to know how Nicholas has been locked up since March, he hasn’t seen his family in almost 2 months he is deteriorated inside he is lonely he cries for his mom when are they letting the special needs people out I have a daughter who’s 15 I am so scared when she turns 22 and the state gets their hands on her. PLEASE HELP CINDY OUT PLEASE


    • December 18, 2020 at 1:05 pm

      Ms Pelchat I assume that you will be going to court before your daughters 18 birthday to be appointed her guardian for starters. While guardianship makes the person a ward of the State it is the guardian that determines All of the programs etc that the person who they are a guardian for participate in. The State will have no role unless they move as they have in Nicholas’ case to remove the guardian. If there are any practices that deviate from family members being appointed guardians they should be challenged now by everyone. They was a reference that Nicholas had an outsider who was also appointed. If that is a common practice it should be challenged as guardians should be must be as close to the person they are guardian as possible. Tom Spellman


  42. Michael Pelchat
    December 18, 2020 at 10:04 am

    Pray for Cindy’s family especially this time of year her son needs his mom I can’t believe this is happening in the year 2020, I am petrified for my child.


  43. Michelle
    February 21, 2021 at 11:47 pm

    I’m having a similar situation with my son who lives in a group home he’s 30 years old with mild developmental issues it’s been one thing after another heat overdoses on medication that he’s not supposed to be able to get a hold of and save up so that he can overdose on them it’s been one thing after another he is on life support again two years ago when his brother passed away and he’s been on life support after that on another occasion overdosing on his medication in the group home I’m beside myself I’ve tried to call lawyers and get help and I can’t get any help with any of this nobody listens


  44. Dave
    April 3, 2021 at 6:12 pm

    [Ediitor’s Note: This “Dave” is anonymous, and is not the “Dave” who writes the posts on this blogsite.]

    Like I said, I will do what I can to help.

    I have had experience with agencies like this. They are out of control.

    Example: A man beat his girlfriend, the mother of his children. Took the mother, smashed her against door frame causing miscarriage – I consider that murder. Locked a little boy in a dog cage, and slammed the oldest girl child, not his, into a fridge so hard her entire back was brused.

    He was awaiting court, and had a restraining order by the Salem Probate Court stating he could have NO visitation under any circumstances with the children.

    DCF – decided to one their own ruling, allow the father to see the children inside the DCF office, despite commiting a crime in the process, and allowing the father to commit a crime in their presence.

    I hauled ass to the court house, and got an emergency document from the court, rushed to Salem Police station, and myself, and several Salem police officers decended on the Salem DCF office.

    THE DCF DENIED ENTRY TO THE POLICE. They wouldn’t let them enter without a warrant. I had already been to the court house, but I didn’t ask the judge to issue a warrant, I’m not a cop, or a ADA I don’t think I could even get that, since I was there myself. So myself, and the cops are circling the parking lot. And the guy NEVER leaves the building. Out comes the kid to reuinte with their Mom, but wheres the Dad? DCF Helped him escape from the building without being caught by the police.

    Well lets just say the judge wasn’t too happy when I brought this up in court – I’m not a lawyer, but I was given permission on certain things.

    That day was the last day I saw that man for a while…..he was taken immediately to jail. 24 hours later both of his knee caps had been shattered. He tried to use that as an excuse to get lighter sentence/get out early/etc. – It failed – back in the hole, get your ass beat some more scum bag.

    Anyway – moral of the story –
    A lot of these agencies are so corrupt that even the police call them corrupt and are shocked that they actually think they are above police orders, court orders, judges rulings, restrainging orders, and probably god. They are often horrible people, many of which I believe have severe mental issues, and as far as DCF goes – I think a lot of them are legitimate pedophiles. Even if they are not – the amount of children who die every year in their custody is insane – i have all the documents it will blow your mind. We are not talking heart attack death, or something, I’m talking about the CHILDREN in DCF custody who have died of Suicides, Homicides, Being burnt to death, freezing to death, freezing to death INSIDE A BUILDING, freezing to death inside a tubaware container, OVERDOSES?, straight up 1st degree murder, fire & arson, complications from blunt force trauma, suffocation accidentally, purposeful suffocation, poision accidental, poision given to child.

    Plus theres the kids with broken bones, including necks and spines, children with severe burns that were inflicted by someone. Knife wounds, gun shot wounds, being drugged, Accidental drowing. Drowing due to neglect. Murder by drowning.

    Suicide: Hanging/Overdose/Self inflicted Gun Shot/Slit Wrists/Attempted Overdose (trying to overdose on things that wont actually kill you, but you think it will).

    Then theres the part that really makes me sick: Torn vaginal walls, torn anal walls, forced sexual acts, cherry popping of young girls, child trafficking, sex trafficking, pimping out children.

    All thanks to the wonderful people at the Massachusetts DCF


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